How you doin gorgeous?

Have you ever been told to tone it down? To stop being so extra? To take up less space so others could feel more comfortable?
​
If you’ve ever felt like your light made people squint—this episode is your reminder that the problem was never you. It was the room you were in.
​
In this raw and unfiltered episode of The Femme Cast, I take you behind the curtain of the subtle and not-so-subtle ways we’re made to feel like we’re “too much” in friendships, workplaces, and even sisterhood circles—and how those experiences are almost never about us, but a reflection of others' discomfort with their own unhealed wounds.

We’ll explore:

🎤How childhood trauma and abandonment wounds shape our fear of standing out

🎤What it really means when someone is threatened by your shine

🎤The difference between sisterhood wounds and survival wounds—and how they quietly sabotage female connection

🎤Why being palatable and pleasing won’t keep you safe—it’ll keep you stuck

🎤And how to finally stop shrinking in spaces that were never meant to hold your full power

I share personal stories—from being subtly silenced in the workplace to being policed by friends for being “too much” at brunch (yes, the outfit shaming is real). And I break down the invisible dynamics that turn confident women into emotional contortionists just to belong.

But here's the truth:
​
You were never too much.
You were just too bright for people still trying to hide in the dark.

So if you’ve been doubting your worth, questioning your voice, or wondering if you need to shrink to be loved—this episode will help you reclaim the parts of yourself you’ve been taught to hide.

Because real safety doesn’t come from dimming your light.
​
It comes from shining anyway—and trusting that the right people will never ask you to shrink.

​The Art of Being “Too Much” | Why Playing Small Isn’t Keeping You Safe—It’s Keeping You Stuck ​